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friendshipwithoneselfisallimportant,becausewithoutitonecannotbefriendswithanyoneelseintheworld.-eleanorroosevelt
weoftenfocusonbuildingrelationshipswithothersthatweforgettheessentialfirststep:beingfriendsofourselves.thatisthecrucialfirststepifwearetohavegoodrelationshipswithothers.howcanwehavegoodrelationshipswithothersifwedon'tevenhavegoodrelationshipwithourselves?
theproblemmightbeworsethanweexpect.maybewedon'tlikeourselveswithoutrealizingit.hereisasimplechecklist;isthereanythingyoudon'tlikeaboutyourselffromtheselist?
yourpast
maybeyouhavemademistakesinthepastwhichyoufeelbadabout.youmightbedisappointedwithyourselfonwhyyoucouldmakesuchmistakes.evenifthathappenedindistantpast,yoursubconsciousmindstillhasareasonnottolikeyourself.
yourbackground
youmightwishthatyouwerebornindifferentfamily,orthatyouhavedifferentbackground.maybeyoucouldnotacceptthefactthatyouarenotasluckyasothers,whoseemtogetwhatevertheywanteffortlesslybecauseoftheirbackground.
yourpersonalitytraits
youmighthavesomepersonalitytraitsthatyoudon'tlike.forexample,youmaybeanintrovertandyoudon'tlikeit;youwishyouareanextrovert.